Would you let a plumber fix your boiler if they had no qualifications or experience? Not gonna happen!
If you’re not going to let somebody play around with your boiler, how do feel about your state of mind and well-being?
I recommend counselling to anybody going through a difficult period. Communicating what’s on your mind is a BIG contributor to you moving forward and getting better. It always will be. Bottling things inside and pretending things are OK only lead onto more issues, like breakdowns.
You’ve got to be able to talk, and that’s where a good counsellor comes into play.
A good counsellor will not only listen to you but also have the experience and knowledge to help guide you through your tough time.
Notice I say ‘a good counsellor’.
Like with all professions, there is good, bad, excellent, and downright shouldn’t be in that professional at all!
Like a plumber and most other professions you can think of, a counsellor could set up their own practice overnight – without any experience or qualifications. The fact that somebody calls himself a counsellor doesn’t make it so.
We can all call ourselves whatever we like – it doesn’t make it the case.
If you’re going to let a plumber loose on your boiler, you’ll want reassurance he knows what he’s doing. (A big reason why the best tradesmen come through recommendation.) If you’re going to let somebody loose on your state of mind and well-being, you should also look for reassurance that they know what they’re doing.
It’s up to you to find out what experience and qualifications a counsellor has. Don’t take it at face value.
When I was dealing with high anxiety, I met with at least four different counsellors. Some were good, and some were not so good.
In hindsight, I should have moved on from the bad ones sooner. But I didn’t. Why? I thought I was the problem. I thought, surely somebody with all that experience and all those qualifications can’t be that bad – it has to be me.
I have lots of respect for good counsellors, so I want to clarify what I mean by a ‘bad’ counsellor. Having now had the pleasure of meeting some great counsellors, I can compare them to the not so good ones.
Here are a few defining signs of a bad counsellor, including things to look out for.
. . .and the list goes on.
If you’ve had an experience with a bad counsellor, I’m sure you can add your own reasons to this list.
So what is the conclusion to all this?
Counselling is good for you. If you’re facing a tough time, go and see a counsellor straightaway - with one BIG caveat: See a good one!
If you need help, support or guidance, you should always find it. Counselling can play a big part in your revival. That weekly meeting with a good counsellor might be the lifeline you’ve been looking for.
If you meet a counsellor, and it doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to change. You always have other options. If you have any doubts, meet a few more counsellors to make sure you’ve made the right choice.
If the plumber started messing around with your boiler, banging and slamming without much progression, you wouldn’t think twice about getting the right one for the job.
If you’re going to take the time to make sure the plumber can fix your boiler, take your time to make sure the counsellor can help you with your state of mind and well-being.
Here are some things to consider.
Most good counsellors offer a free consultation (if you’re going private) so you can decide if you are right for each other. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
It’s an important decision and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It can be the difference between you being able to move on and staying stuck in the same pattern of thought that is holding you back.
Go and get talking. A good counsellor is out there waiting for you.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker helping you deal with anxiety and stress.