If you don’t buy the happy-clappy BS that typically comes with positive thinking and being more positive, I don’t blame you.
I've never been one for jumping high-fives, affirmations, and all the other stereotypes when it comes to positive thinking and being more positive.
(Give me a break.)
But (and there is a big BUT) while we're trying to lower our anxiety, we have to make an effort to become more positive with our thinking and attitude – whether or not we believe thinking more positively is a pile of bollocks.
When you’re feeling anxious, it doesn’t take negative thoughts much effort to take over, right?
One negative thought leads to the next, and before you know it, you hate the world and every mo fo who lives on it.
Life is shit, everything is shit, and nothing will ever change.
I get it.
But if we don’t try and counteract these shitty negative thoughts with better ones, you’ll stay trapped in a cycle that takes you deeper into an anxious and a stress-filled hole.
Assuming you don’t want to stay in this hole, you gotta start thinking different.
Because I don’t buy into the whole positive thinking stuff myself, I prefer to think of it as being more optimistic.
Be More Optimistic
When you're anxious, your glass of milk is always half empty. (Actually, it's more like completely empty!)
We always believe the worst and expect the worst to happen.
This attitude is not only fuelling our misery and anxiety, but it's also attracting some serious negative energy into our lives.
Anxiety will have you believing all sorts.
Most of it is rubbish, and you'll know to dismiss it. Most anxiety-induced negative thoughts shouldn't concern you.
The thought that we're going to focus on here is the one that relates to us believing that our lives will never change. The one that convinces us that we're destined to live an anxiety-ridden life and nothing will ever change.
It goes a little like this:
'My life will never change. This f'ing anxiety just won't budge. I had an alright day yesterday. I don't understand why today is so bad again. My life is a f*ing mess. Nothing will ever change.'
(Or something similar to that.)
You're going to have good and challenging days.
The challenging days will become fewer and far between when we stop allowing anxiety to trick us into believing that our lives will never change. These statements and ways of thinking only serve to fuel the negativity and anxiety further.
It's time for some more optimism.
Emotions are Temporary
You have every right to be more optimistic.
I mean, you're one of the few that have been clever enough to come across my blog – that puts you close to genius!
I'm not naive to believe that the challenging days aren't the most difficult. Everyone has challenging days, including me. But they affect me a lot less than previous because I remember one vital piece of information.
A bad day is just that - one bad day.
Tomorrow is a new day.
We've all had those days when we've felt like we could kick a wall down in anger. Or when we've been in a spiral of anxiety that doesn't seem to end. But it did end - didn't it? It always does.
That's because our emotions are temporary, including feeling anxious and stressed.
That piece of information alone should be enough to get you on the path of more optimism.
Do you remember a time when you felt terrible, but felt completely different the next day?
Maybe you felt different because something positive happened, or you decided that feeling like crap just wasn't worth it.
Sometimes changing how we feel requires time, but the better you get at remembering all emotions are temporary, the quicker you can change your state of mind - including having more optimism and less anxiety.
The next time anxiety starts to bite, remember that it is temporary.
The next time you have a challenging day, remember that is also temporary.
The same goes for any situation or period of time.
It's as temporary as you make it.
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