Stress is caused by the pressure you put on yourself. But when you look at the true source of that stress and pressure, it might surprise you.
Start with the question: Whose expectations am I living up to?
Your boss and his relentless targets?
Your partner and his need for attention?
A friend and her emotional abuse?
If your stress is connected to someone else (and it almost always is), you're stressing yourself out based on what they expect from you. You’ve just handed over all your power.
Personal and mental freedom (a lot less stress) can be achieved as quickly as dropping other people’s expectations and living by your own set of rules and expectancy.
Living by your own new standards and expectations will come with a consequence, as all choices do. A new job or a loss of a relationship, for instance. But if your stress levels are uncontrollably high and you're miserable living up to other people's expectations, it might be worth it.
Carl Vernon is a bestselling author and coach, helping people overcome anxiety and stress.