Do you know what our number one fear is?
Death? No – that normally comes about 4th on the list.
Spiders? No – they also come a little further down the list.
The number one fear we have is PUBLIC SPEAKING.
If you think about it, its another way of saying that our number one fear is other people.
In my DPD Rule I highlight people as one of our greatest fears. When we learn to deal with the fear of other people the reduction of anxiety can be dramatic.
If we weren’t concerned about what other people thought of us then social anxiety wouldn’t exist. If you’re not convinced, try going to the supermarket wearing just your underwear!
Being anxious burns a lot of energy, and when you add sleep deprivation to the equation, the day has just become 10 times harder.
High anxiety depends on a fragile state of mind, and sleep deprivation is all it needs to thrive.
Sleep deprivation = More Anxiety = Sleep deprivation = More Anxiety
This cycle can only be broken by getting the amount of sleep you need.
If you’re feeling anxious today and you consistently don’t get enough sleep, go to bed earlier than usual tonight. Turn the TV off, put the book down, and draw the curtains.
Aim to get a solid 7-9 hours sleep, and you will inevitably feel better tomorrow.
Keep doing it, and think about how you will feel in a month.
If we’re not growing as individuals we tend to go backwards.
Think of evolution. If we didn’t continue to invent, experiment, and expand our ideas we wouldn’t have all the convenience and luxuries we have today (like switching on a light).
Anxiety can stump this evolution. It can prevent you from growing as a person and make you feel like you’re going backwards, rather in the direction you want to go.
If you continue to allow anxiety to dictate who you are, what are you evolving into?
Placebos are not only remarkable and fascinating, they are absolute proof that we can change our lives with the power of thought and belief alone.
Placebos should give you the hope and belief (if you need it) that overcoming anxiety is all in the mind, and that it’s absolutely possible to overcome anxiety with the power of thought alone.
If somebody can take a pill that contains nothing more than sugar and overcome the same illness as somebody treated with proper medication, then it’s more about what you believe rather than the medication itself.
If you believe you can overcome anxiety and live a balanced life, you’re right.
We all have one. It’s that little circle that surrounds us.
We like to stay in it as much as possible because we feel safe and secure. However, have you asked yourself recently – how comfortable is my comfort zone?
If a phobia of driving on the motorway is preventing you from seeing friends and family, your comfort zone is too small.
If you can’t get on a plane to enjoy a holiday, your comfort zone is limiting your happiness.
If anxiety induced agoraphobia is keeping you locked in your house, your comfort zone is unrealistic and not comfortable at all.
Part of overcoming anxiety requires you to look at your comfort zone, and in a lot of circumstances, expand, reshape, and re-evaluate it.
You don’t need to make an almighty leap into the unknown. Take it step-by-step and work your way up to where you want to be. Before you know it your world will become a bigger, happier place – without the limitations and parameters of a comfort zone.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress & well-being.