I fully respect doctors and the work they do. There is no doubt those guys have a tough job.
Anxiety-related symptoms and disorders make their job ten times harder.
Because anxiety and stress can be related to pretty much any symptom. Headache. Neck ache. Sore throat. Fever. Fatigue. Sleeping problems. An itchy toe. You name it – it’s linked.
I was in and out of the doctor’s surgery.
I didn’t have a clue if I were coming or going – and I don’t think the doctor did either.
The constant need for reassurance was the overriding issue.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of anxiety (fear), it’s likely you’ll be visiting the doctor often. It’s also very likely you’ll be hitting the internet to see Dr Google for answers.
You might stay stuck in the cycle because you’re not finding the answers you’re looking for.
Because I know how deep the need for answers and constant reassurance goes, I want to give you some quick answers to typical anxiety-related symptoms and disorders that you won’t hear from the doctor.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Summed up, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is created because we feel out of control in at least one area of our lives. OCD is a way for us to try and get that control back – even if it means coming up with pointless routines that don’t mean anything. So if you hate your job, for example, and feel like there is nothing you can do about it, you might develop OCD as a way of coping with it. Getting back in control (or at least feel like you’re in control) will stop the need for compulsive behaviour.
In short, panic attacks are bullies that we create when we’re dealing with high anxiety. We become hypersensitive to all our bodily feelings, and when something is off kilter, even slightly, it can cause us to panic (have a panic attack). When you start managing high anxiety better by implementing all the proper lifestyle and mindset changes, panic attacks become a thing of the past.
At its very basic level, social anxiety is the need to avoid other people. When you’re highly anxious and stressed, one of the last things you feel like doing is going to make idle small talk with your mates. When we feel like crap, we prefer to do it in the comfort of our own homes. Longer-term issues with social anxiety arise because avoidance feels good (at first). As time goes by, social anxiety gets worse when we appreciate a reclusive lifestyle isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. When we get comfortable with the fact that EVERYONE deals with the same issues, including high anxiety and stress, we stop feeling so isolated. We also improve relationships with others – and in turn, drop the social anxiety.
Getting straight to the point, health anxiety is the fear of death. If you’re familiar with my DP Rule from Anxiety Rebalance, you’ll know that our two primary fears are Death and People. When you start dealing with these fears, health anxiety becomes much less of an issue.
Constant Worrying Thoughts
In a nutshell, constant worrying thoughts are brought about by the ‘what if’ type thoughts we produce when we’re anxious and stressed. ‘What if this. . . What if that. . .’. One thought leads to the next, and before you know it, a small problem has turned into a monster. Learning to control our thoughts will stop the monster from getting out of control.
Depression (Depressive Thoughts)
Very simplified, depression is a lack of energy and willpower. Being highly anxious and stressed zaps our energy. Energy gives you the get-up-and-go you need for the things you want (and need) to do in life – even the basic everyday things take energy. You can’t do anything without energy. When you’re ready to start working on upping your energy levels through various methods, like good diet and exercise, it helps combat the negative and depressive thoughts.
Planning on building a nest in the mountains?
How’s about hunting for small mammals?
Not very useful, everyday stuff. I get that. You’re happy with your cosy bed and prefer your meat when it’s not running away from you.
But there is much more we can learn from the amazing creature that is the eagle.
Eagles operate on another level when it comes to their way of thinking. If we can act on just one of these things, we can start elevating our own lives.
Here are six of the top lessons an eagle can teach us.
(Although I have nothing against pigeons, I’ve used them in my examples to demonstrate the opposite of what an eagle does. It’s got a lot to do with the fact that, if a pigeon crossed an eagle’s path, it wouldn’t be one of its best days.)
1. Eagles fly above the clouds
When there is a storm, birds take shelter in the trees. Eagles take flight and soar above the clouds to avoid the storm altogether. When the pigeons are squabbling, let them squabble. Use your soaring capabilities and fly above it to a place of quiet and tranquillity. The clouds will shelter you from the unnecessary and pointless noise below. The next time you find yourself getting involved, think like an eagle and soar above it.
2. Eagles are loyal
Eagles are monogamous and generally mate for life. Behind every strong man is the love of a good woman, and of course, vice versa. You’ll find pigeons interbreeding and not being too fussy about what back they jump on. In human terms, this means lots of one-night stands that lead to your private bits dropping off. Keep your bits intact and think like an eagle – stay loyal.
3. You don’t see eagles coming
If you’re familiar with the film Avatar, they call it ‘The Last Shadow’. If an eagle’s prey saw a shadow above them, it would be the last shadow they ever saw. Be cautious about putting all your cards on the table. Not everyone needs to know your next move. The element of surprise can be effective.
4. Eagles play the sole game
There is strength in numbers, and it’s said that a wolf’s pack is its true strength. But it’s also worth noting that pigeons flock together and congregate in groups. Eagles hunt and fly alone. Bruce Willis kicked a bunch of bad guys ass in Die Hard all by himself. Don’t be afraid to operate by yourself, just like Bruce and the eagle.
5. An eagle sees things
An eagle’s sight is about five times better than ours – we can’t compete with that. An eagle will see things well in advance of what a pigeon would. But a human operating with an eagle’s foresight might be able to predict the future quicker and therefore act before anyone else. Knowledge is potential power – it only becomes powerful when you take action. When you arm yourself with knowledge and act on it, you will be steps ahead. I bet if an eagle could read you’d see them in libraries all the time.
6. An eagles tears prevent infection
Men in particular need to pay attention to this one - due to the macho demeanour we like to portray and belief that crying equals weakness. Man, woman or beast, having the odd cry is normal and OK. Eagles are so aware of this fact that their tears prevent their eyes from becoming infected. Maybe if we all had a good cry every now and again (men included) and didn’t suppress our shit, we would be less susceptible to infection ourselves?
Be an eagle.
How is your relationship with food?
Over the years, my relationship with food has been an interesting one.
I love food. And what anyone says, food is love.
I regard eating out in a decent restaurant as one of life’s few pleasures.
Because of the above, I’ve never quite cracked the body that I would consider as being ‘toned and athletic’. The machine at my gym says I’m ‘solid’ and ‘borderline obese’. After swearing at it and giving it a swift kick, I come to agree with the fact that I could benefit from losing a few pounds.
But do you not think it’s also important to strike a balance somewhere?
You can sacrifice too much in life - to the point where sacrifice means absolute torture. The thought of not being able to eat out and living off leafy salad every day sends a shiver down my spine. I’d rather tuck into a spaghetti bolognese (a vegetarian one – I’ll come to this in a second) than a garden salad.
With this said, my relationship with food has got better.
A lot of this has to do with the fact that I had to make significant changes in my diet to resolve issues with my high anxiety.
I used to live off takeaways and fast food, and without me realising it, my diet had a profound effect on how I felt, including my levels of anxiety and stress.
It’s only since I’ve sorted my diet out I’ve come to discover that food, drink, and everything else we consume is one the biggest contributors to how we feel, including our mood and well-being.
I’m no nutritionist, health expert or health freak. I won’t pretend to be an expert when it comes to diet. I can only go on my personal experience and the knowledge I’ve picked up from others. Here, I’m sharing some of this knowledge about a few of our biggest consumptions, including the things that, when addressed, can change your life significantly.
My intention with this blog is simple: To get you thinking about what you’re putting in your mouth – because you are what you eat, drink and consume.
Just by changing a few habits, whether about food, drink, or anything else that goes between your lips, it can make a serious impact on your life.
Processed Food & Sugar
‘Fat-free’ advertising is massively misleading.
What do you think when you see ‘fat-free’? You think: That must be healthy, right?
The reason it’s so misleading is the sugar content. A product, like fat-free yoghurt, might well be fat-free, but it’s crammed full of sugar – which is just as bad for you!
When food is processed and refined, like white sugar, it goes through a process that takes it from being natural to very unnatural. That’s why all the white stuff, like white sugar, white bread and white rice are so bad for us. By the time they come out of the other end, they are transformed into something that we need to think twice about consuming.
Just look at it like this: What were our ancestors eating?
It depends how far you want to go back to answer this question.
If we go back about 10,000 years, we were eating plants, meat, eggs and fish – straight off the land. It’s only been in about the last 100 years (1910’s) that we’ve started eating processed foods. In other words, our bodies aren’t designed to deal with as much processed food as we tank into them.
Our bodies have naturally evolved to have more of a varied diet, but it wasn’t designed to healthily consume things like humanmade trans fat – the type of fat you find in cakes and biscuits that increase its shelf life – commonly linked with obesity, heart attacks, high cholesterol, diabetes and strokes.
If you’ve read the news recently, you’ll also see processed foods being linked to cancer.
And where did processed food come from?
Like most other things that are bad for us, it comes about from the need for profit – the need for companies to make money. Putting food through a series of processing makes producing large quantities of food cheaper and makes the company more profitable.
The solution and conclusion?
Eat as much raw, unprocessed and organic foods as you can.
My relationship with meat, like with food in general, has been mixed.
The longest time I spent not eating meat was about six months. I have to say; it felt pretty good – to the point I’m not entirely sure why I ate meat again.
At the time of writing this, I’ve been off meat again for about two months, and this time I plan to make it stick.
One of the biggest influences in my decision was when I watched the documentary What the Health. If you haven’t seen it, the documentary explores the meat industry and tells us why a vegan-based diet is best for us.
The documentary, like so many others within its genre, has come under fire for supporting weak data. I’m not really bothered about that. For me, the message was strong enough to support my existing concerns about the meat industry.
Whether you’re into animal welfare or not, meat is one of the biggest subjects we need to address when it comes to our diet and how we feel. Why? Just take a second to think about how much meat you consume (if you’re a meat-eater). It’s a ton of the stuff.
In today’s culture, a meal isn’t complete unless there is a bit of meat on the plate. For me, that meant I ate meat every day. Now you have an idea of volume, think about these other few things.
- You are eating what the animals eat.
- Do you know what is going into the meat to preserve it (both when the animal is alive and dead)?
- How many animals are being killed daily to feed you and the world’s population?
- The thing you see on the plate is very different to the living creature grazing happily on the field.
I’m not preaching here. I certainly don’t want to make you feel like eating meat is a bad thing, and you are a bad person for doing it. Based on the thirty plus years I ate meat, that would make me a hypocrite. I’m not the type of semi-vegetarian who will slap it in your face. If you love meat, I will cook it for you.
As I mentioned, this isn’t a blog about me telling you what you should and shouldn’t eat. I’m just letting you know that, based on the facts, I decided to stop eating meat. While this decision feels right, I’ll continue with it.
When you get more educated about meat (if you choose to), you’ll come up with your own conclusions. Whether you decide not to change a thing, stop eating it, cut it down or eat meat from sources you can trace, that decision is yours to make.
If you do want to know more, I recommend watching the documentary What the Health. That, I’m sure, will lead you to other documentaries and sources that will interest you.
DISPELLING A MEAT MYTH
One of the reasons I kept eating meat was the belief I would be physically weaker if I didn’t eat it. That is rubbish. Some of the most powerful animals in nature, including gorillas and elephants, are vegetarian. And if that doesn’t convince you, go to YouTube and type ‘Vegan Bodybuilder’.
And in regards to energy – one of the most energy-zapping things we do is digesting food. Red meats, in particular, are very hard to digest and take up a lot of our energy. How do you feel after you’ve eaten a big steak dinner compared to a light salad? You need energy to cope with anxiety and stress, so it’s worthwhile having a good think about your diet and how it might be making you feel. Is what you’re eating slowing you down and zapping your energy, or is it boosting it?
*PARTY POOPER ALERT!
If you don’t wish to be party-poopered (if there is such a term), end your read. Thank you for coming this far – see you in the next blog. If you don’t mind a little more lecturing, read on . . .
At the height of my high anxiety, I would happily consume a bottle of wine every evening. One glass would quickly (and way too easily) lead to the fourth.
It was an incredibly short-term solution to a long-term issue – which was only being fuelled more by the consumption of copious alcohol.
Yes – alcohol helped me relax and took my cares away for a few wee hours.
But no – alcohol didn’t help me sleep, and I felt like absolute shit the next day. I’d wake up most mornings feeling like a zombie with anxiety hitting me instantly.
Alcohol (ethanol) is poison – quite literally – hence the term: Alcohol Poisoning.
When you drink alcohol, you are poisoning your body.
This very true fact hasn’t stopped me from drinking the stuff. And why should it? The stuff is legal and easily obtainable.
I still enjoy a glass of red - but with one big difference – I do it in moderation.
And like most things in life, when you do it in moderation using your common sense, it should be absolutely fine.
Small steps lead onto big things.
And it’s true - you don’t need to jump in with both feet to get the result you want.
This said I’ve not always operated in this way.
We’ve all heard the stories of the Dad who throws his kid (the kid who can’t swim) straight into the deep end. The kid either swims or sinks.
This method makes the Dad an arsehole, but it also makes the kid a very fast learner.
I got to a stage in my life where I got tired of allowing anxiety, fear, or whatever you want to call it, a dominant force in my life.
Maybe you’re at this stage yourself right now?
Small steps towards change were no doubt helping me move towards where I wanted to be. But it was the big jolters – the throwing myself in the deep end when I couldn’t swim – that really did the trick.
When I had a lifelong fear of heights, I got in a small plane, flew 8000 feet and piloted it. When I was agoraphobic, I got on a plane and flew 5000 miles to Vegas. When I was a private person apprehensive about sharing my experience, I wrote a book and shared it with the world.
In these experiences, was I crapping my panties? Of course I was. Did they work out perfectly? Nope. Was every part of me telling me to turn back, with my thoughts convincing me that I didn’t have to do them? Yep.
These things weren’t life or death, so you could say I didn’t have to do them.
But I told myself that I had to.
I had to because I knew I had a choice.
Behind Door #1: Keep allowing anxiety (fear) to dictate my life and continue complaining about how bad my life is and how nothing changes.
Behind Door #2: Crap my pants, but do it anyway. Expand the comfort zone I’d got myself trapped in, and grow beyond the fear.
YOU HAVE THE SAME CHOICE
Nothing will be as bad as the fear you produce within yourself.
Most of this fear is an illusion.
In other words, those ‘what if’ thoughts that you produce are as bad as it will ever get.
Think of the times you were scared to do something, but you did it anyway. Maybe you were forced to do it because you had to? Was it unpleasant? If it meant you were growing, it’s likely it was.
Compare this to a time when you were scared to do something and avoided it. Maybe you’re still avoiding it? Where has it got you? Usually, it’s an emergency trip to the dentist in agony with an abscess that could have been avoided months ago (at a lot less cost).
Choosing door #2 will allow you to look at your fear(s) differently, whatever they may be.
- The bully boss will think twice about bullying you.
- Indecision and lack of direction won’t plague you.
- The pigeon who thinks they can take advantage of you will get a sharp lesson in dealing with an eagle.
And these are just a few everyday examples of the benefits of dealing with fear head-on, rather than using avoidance to hide. Think of the possibilities.
We all have the capability to face our fear and push through it.
So let me ask you this question: What are you afraid of?
By all means, keep taking those small steps towards where you want to be.
But if you want quicker results, and you’re scared of the sea, go and swim with the sharks.
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