You’ve already been told the usual advice when it comes to dealing with anxiety – to the point you’ve become bored of hearing about
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Admittedly, as your Anxiety Coach, I’ll have you doing some of these things, and they’re given as regular advice for a sound reason. But to shake things up a little, I also want to give you some different, radical ideas to help you reduce your anxiety – things you might not have thought about doing previously.
I noticed a while ago that if I wanted something different, I had to do something different.
Some of these ideas might sound a little radical, and could even raise an eyebrow, but that’s exactly the point.
The more different and radical the idea, the quicker the change and reduction in anxiety could happen.
Suggestion 1: Quit TV for a week
How radical is that? The idea of no TV for a week! To most of us, this sounds as crazy as it gets. This is exactly why I want you to consider doing it. If you want something new, you have to try something different, and cutting off the TV supply is something very different for most of us. Before you tell me this is impossible, I’m not asking you to do anything I haven’t done myself. I cut TV out for a week, and I haven’t looked back since. I went from a TV addict to someone who will watch a bit of Netflix every now and again. Why did it work? Think about how much anxiety TV might be causing you. Adverts constantly telling us how to look and act. The news repetitively telling us what a f’ed up world we live in. Reality TV making us feel inferior. By the time you’ve flicked through those hundred pointless channels, it’s time to go to bed and start the same pattern over and over again. Quit TV for a bit, and you might find it gives you the time to do that thing you’ve always wanted to do.
Suggestion 2: Stop watching the news
As I just mentioned, the news has a great knack of repeatedly reminding us of how f’ed up the world is. Do we need a constant reminder? I’m not saying bury your head in the sand, but if you keep feeding your mind with negativity, it will fuel your anxiety. The news is widely accessible, and with your phone, it’s constantly in your pocket. Come away from looking at it, and see how you feel. If you need to know something, you’ll know it.
Suggestion 3: Stop giving your anxiety excuses
Giving something a reason to exist, including high anxiety, will give it life. Excuses will provide all the fuel your high anxiety will ever need to not only survive but also thrive. It’s the weather. It’s my job. It’s my boss. Anxiety runs in my family. It’s my partner. It’s my kids! The list can go on as much as you want. If you want to reduce your high anxiety, the excuses need to stop. It’s time to take 100% responsibility. Anxiety won’t like it – it doesn’t like it when you take responsibility. That might mean more anxiety. But until you step forward and take responsibility, nothing will change. Stop the excuses, and you’ll stop stoking the fire.
Suggestion 4: Come away from support groups
I don’t offer a support group for good reason. I’ve not had positive experiences with them, and the same goes for a lot of the people I speak to daily. Support groups are there for good intention, but they can easily create bad feeling and more anxiety – sometimes unintentionally. We all need support, but we need it in a way that provides us with the positivity and focus we need to move forward – the reason why my programme has a unique buddying system that does exactly that.
Suggestion 5: Cut down your social media use
Notice I say ‘cut down’ here, rather than stop. For 99.9% of us, not using social media is like not eating. If I asked you to stop using social media, I know it would be like asking you to lose a limb. So let’s be realistic. In lots of recent surveys and studies, the use of social media has been shown to increase anxiety. It’s little wonder when all you see is the highlights. When you’re sitting there chained to your desk at work, and you’re looking at pictures of your friends partying, it has a habit of rapidly producing resent, anger, and jealousy – and in turn, lots of anxiety. Top this off with no likes or comments on your posts, and you’ve got yourself a proper pity party. Put the phone down. Shut the laptop. Pick up a book. Go for a walk. Have a real conversation. Do these things without worrying about sharing everything you do to get approval from others. The feeling of freedom you get might be the anxiety-buster you’re looking for.
These five ideas may be radically different to what you’ve considered previously. But like I said, if you want some big changes, including big reductions in your anxiety, you’ve got to do something you haven’t done before.
Why not give them a go? What have you got to lose?
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