Here are some of the top anxiety-related questions sent into me.
Can you get rid of anxiety?
Probably the most asked question of all. And rightly so. Who wouldn't want to get rid of anxiety? It's horrible. But there is a fundamental problem with the question. You can't get rid of something that is a fixed part of your life and, for safety purposes, neither would you want to. 'High Anxiety' – well, that's something different – that is something that can be dealt with and managed with balance.
How do I stop worrying?
You don't, so don't try. Worry is normal. Release the pressure and lower your tense shoulders. Let go for a second and take a deep breath. Most of our worries are made up. They are based on 'what if', 'might' and 'maybe'. You are going to worry. Everyone does. It's normal. You may as well make your worry count. Realign that focus on worry worth your time and energy.
Why is my health anxiety so bad?
Anxiety makes us want to know things because when we're in the know there is nothing to be anxious or apprehensive about. The unknown is a breeding ground for worrying, negative thoughts. When you need to feed the worry habit (finding something to worry about if you're not worrying), anxiety about your health is the quickest solution. It offers an endless stream of 'what if' type worries – and all you need to do is check your body, experience a symptom or think a thought to get the fear cycle turning.
How do I stop panic attacks?
You treat panic attacks like the bullies they are. You do not rise to their commands or submit to their demands. You accept that you are experiencing their physical sensations but, instead of cowering, you smile. You continue safely in the knowledge that a panic attack has never harmed anyone, ever. When the bully knows it can no longer intimidate you and gets tired of trying, watch how quickly it moves on.
Why do I have OCD and anxiety?
Anxiety puts us on edge, and we will look for anything to try and get that control back – even if it is destructive – like in the form of OCD-related routines and behaviours. I might not be in control of my finances, but at least I have control and ownership over my clean house. Rather than avoiding issues with finances, work, relationships or people, focus on what you can control and take ownership of it. The need to focus on unhealthy habits will continue to disperse when there is a healthier purpose or project to concentrate on.
My parents have anxiety. Will I have anxiety as well?
No. You are more likely to suffer from anxiety due to your environment, not the genes you were born with. In other words, it is the beliefs, behaviours and attitudes of your parents and the people around you that influence how you feel. Change your environment, and you change your perception.
Why is my anxiety worse in the morning?
If you were anxious the night before, it's unlikely you will wake up feeling different in the morning. Your thoughts will pick up from where you left them. Don't focus on the time of day – it's insignificant. Instead, focus on your overall mindset. High anxiety is about focus as much as anything else. Where is your focus? On worry, or on taking action to overcome that worry? Action is what counts, whatever time of day it is.
How do I deal with anxiety at night?
Tomorrow is fast approaching – it's something else to worry about. Planning for the next day puts you back in control. Before you go to bed, be clear about what you are doing the next day. This solves two problems. (1) It gives you purpose, and purpose is what you need to get out bed. (2) It takes away the apprehension because you know what is coming. Anxiety doesn't like it when you have a routine or a plan. When you know what you're doing, anxiety doesn't have as many 'what ifs' to feed on. Get a plan and make it happen.
Why does anxiety make you dizzy?
We could go into all the physical and symptomatic reasons why anxiety causes dizziness, but let's focus on the cause itself – anxiety. Anxiety-related dizziness, like any other symptom, is a by-product of anxiety. Let that offer immediate reassurance and get rid of the 'unknown' about the dizziness, so anxiety can't feed off health anxiety-related worry as well as everything else. Be confident to know, when you deal with the anxiety you deal with the symptom. You might find, if you focus on one particular symptom, like dizziness, you experience it more. That is the power of focus. Make overcoming anxiety your focus and everything else follows, including overcoming the symptoms.
Why does anxiety cause insomnia?
The need to sleep accentuates anxiety. 'If I don't get some sleep, I'm going to feel like crap again tomorrow.' Overthinking creates worry, and the anxiety and worry keep you awake. The solution is a combination of mindset and lifestyle changes, with a crucial ingredient of patience. Solving insomnia isn't an overnight fix. The more urgency is created, the more we worry – and the cycle of poor sleep continues. Small steps is what it takes. Be confident, as long as you adopt the right mindset and lifestyle changes, your sleep and energy will continue to improve.