I suppressed my true thoughts and feelings for over 10 years. I lived a double life and didn't tell anybody about what I was going through. I thought I was the only person on the planet that experienced high anxiety. I felt scared, ashamed, and sometimes embarrassed - what would people think?
This was a heavy and completely unnecessary burden to carry.
Dealing with anxiety starts by facing up to it
Anxiety is the most common of all mental health problems, with at least 1 in 20 people suffering from it at any one time. I could go on with the statistics, but the point is you're not alone.
Recovery begins with opening up, and sharing your true thoughts and feelings. Bottling it up will get you nowhere.
I can't begin to tell you the relief I gained from knowing I wasn't alone, and that I could relate so closely to other peoples experience. I'm not telling you to go shout from the rooftops, but at least talk to somebody - particularly if you're holding it all inside and dealing with it alone.
I'm sure you'll agree, unless you've experienced high anxiety personally it's very hard to grasp, so talking to somebody that's been there is even better. A greater level of comfort is received by knowing you're speaking to somebody that truly understands.
Have you decided to talk?If you've decided to talk about your true feelings I'm extremely proud of you, because I know how difficult it can be.
Opening up to friends, family, and the people closest to you can be tough. This is because they mean a lot to you, and the last thing you want is to be treated differently - and you won't be. You'll be respected for being honest, and the people that love and care for you won't judge you.
It took me 10 years to open up and I sincerely hope it doesn't take you as long. If it has, change it immediately. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If talking to the people closest to you is a step too far, start by sharing your experience with someone neutral.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress, success & wellbeing.