There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but when anxiety is playing its part, it can put extra pressure on it.
Anxiety or not, there is always a common theme to a relationship that stands the test of time, and that’s good communication.
The worst period of my life was when I was bottling things inside, and not telling the people closest to me what was really going on.
Although I was in a relationship, I felt like I was completely alone.
So that’s the very first step. If you haven’t been honest, start talking.
It is a big jump, and if it is a step too far, you can always start by speaking to somebody impartial, like a counsellor. You can work up to speaking to the people closest to you.
If you have been open and said what’s on your mind, you might experience the ‘they don’t understand’ scenario.
But do you want your partner or the people closest to you to really understand if they’ve never experienced sustained high anxiety first-hand? You wouldn’t wish it on your worst enemy.
Be patient, and if they love you, they will be there when you need them.
Just be mindful of getting the balance right.
A ‘mother figure’ can actually be detrimental to your revival.
If you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning, you need somebody helping you to get up, not tucking you in. If you don’t want to go to the shop, you need somebody who will support you and go with you (to start with), not go for you.
Anxiety will want you to delegate as much as you can because it feels easier when you don’t have to make as many decisions. But that will never get you to where you want (and need) to be.
That’s why it’s important you aim to grow your independence – and keep it.
You and your relationship will be much stronger for it.
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ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress, success & well-being.