You wouldn’t build a new house on a weak foundation – it would collapse.
Why is it we try to build a future with an anxious and stressed mind and expect things not to topple down?
If you build a future on weak goals, broken promises, no independence, no investment in yourself, or by chasing money and happiness, it’s only a matter of time before big issues pop up.
If you want to guarantee a stronger future and give yourself the best chance to deal with the things life is going to throw at you, a strong foundation is a must.
Here are five things you can do to build a stronger and better future with less stress and anxiety.
1. Make more decisions
We become weak when we stop making decisions, and not making decisions is a typical trait of being highly anxious. To become a stronger and less anxious person, you have to make more decisions. You have to be willing to take responsibility for those decisions and deal with the stress that comes with it. That’s the only way to grow your independence. The more you depend on others to make decisions and live your life for you, the bigger the fall will be in the future. Start making small decisions and keep working your way up to the big ones. It’s a little bit like growing a muscle - the more you work at it, the stronger you’ll get.
2. Invest in your #1 asset: Yourself
Henry Ford said: ‘Old men are always advising young men to save money. That is bad advice. Don’t save every nickel. Invest in yourself. I never saved a dollar until I was forty years old.’ In other words, what’s the point in saving if you’re not making your goals happen by investing in yourself? It’s all well and good making sacrifices in life and having money in the bank, but sometimes you have to question: Why am I doing it? If you can utilise the money to read, attend courses and gain experience, these new skills and knowledge will earn you a lot more than 0.5% interest.
3. Get a Results Buddy
Your self-motivation can only go so far because it’s overrated. If you want consistent results, you’re going to need to get yourself a results buddy. Even the most motivated and self-driven individual will need support eventually. It’s the exact reason why coaches exist – sometimes we need that extra push, support, and guidance. And that’s where a results buddy comes in - a results buddy helps and supports you with your goals, like a coach. Having a results buddy also plays well to human psychology, because we don’t want to let people down. If you tell somebody you’re going to do something compared to relying on yourself, how much more likely is it to get done? 100% more likely! Ask somebody you know today to help you achieve your goals, and even better, do the same for them in return.
4. Don’t chase after happiness or money
Chasing after happiness and money is a flawed approach. Money and happiness are by-products of doing what you love. If you aim to do more of what you love, happiness and money will come. Most things you chase in life only end up costing you in the long run – and it’s normally in the form of lots of anxiety and stress. The ‘If I do that, then I’ll be happy’ attitude doesn’t work either. ‘That’ and ‘then’ may never happen. Start doing the things that will make you happier right now, otherwise, you risk never being happy.
5. Stop looking for reassurance
Dealing with problems will hit you twice as hard if you keep depending on others for reassurance, especially if they become unavailable. Getting into a routine of having to seek reassurance is dangerous. If you want to learn to ride a bike the training wheels have to come off at some point. There is no foundation without mental strength, and a strong mentality includes the ability to make your own decisions by trusting yourself and your instincts. Don’t let external factors influence you unless you want them to. You’re in control. You always have been.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress, success & wellbeing.