A big reason I searched for answers as long as I did is because of the rubbish I kept being told, mainly due to the fact they were after my money and more concerned about telling me what I wanted to hear, rather than giving me information that would help.
It became apparent, if I wanted change, I’d have to go and find the answers myself.
Along that journey I came across facts I didn't want to hear. But, I realised if I wanted to overcome anxiety and experience lifetime change, I had to accept the rough with the smooth, which sometimes meant dealing with things I didn’t want to.
Here are four things that others won’t tell you about anxiety.
1. You Have to Face Your Fears
I was once told that I’d never have to face my fears. I’m sure you agree, this sounds nice, but it’s complete rubbish. If you want to overcome anxiety one of the first things you need to do is face up to it, otherwise it will rule your life for however long you let it.
2. There is NO Quick Fix
Who doesn’t want a quick fix? I know I did. I can understand why we prefer to watch the movie rather than read the book, but a quick fix solution for dealing with anxiety doesn’t exist. Time and practice is the only long-term solution for overcoming high anxiety.
3. There is NO Cure for Anxiety
Probably the biggest misconception of them all. There is no cure for anxiety, and there never will be. When you get angry or sad, your first reaction isn’t to want to get rid of the emotions of anger and sadness. So, why are we led to believe that we need to ‘cure’ and ‘eliminate’ our anxiety? It’s a normal emotion like any other. There will never be a cure for something that is perfectly natural - something that does us good and keeps us functional and alive! You don’t need a cure, you need answers.
4. You Have to Do it Yourself
You can only be shown the door. You have to walk through it yourself. Otherwise, there's no substance to your actions. Overcoming anxiety means freedom, and when there is a dependency on something or someone else there will never be freedom and you'll always be dependent. If you want to overcome anxiety you have to do it yourself.
This post, like my other posts, is designed to give you answers. Information you want to hear isn’t always the information that will help. Sometimes that means giving you honest answers you might find challenging, or maybe even a little scary.
If you’re willing to face up to the truth - that overcoming anxiety takes time and practice - there’s nothing to worry about.
Real, honest answers followed by action leads to real change.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress, success & well-being.