I used to avoid self-help.
Just the term ‘self-help’ would be enough to put me off.
There was a real embarrassment attached to it for me.
Me? Self-help? How dare you!
My internal picture of self-help included high-fives, cheesy grins, groups of people jumping up and down, and arms raised up to the sky as people were overcome with an invisible power.
Although this is partly accurate, the embarrassment I attached to self-help was seriously holding me back.
That’s why I’ve dedicated this post to anybody who feels the same – because if you give self-help a try, it might just change your life.
Here are six reasons you need self-help and why you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it.
1. Self-help is just education
Self-help has got a bit of a stigma attached to it, but when you think about it, self-help is just a form of education. It’s a way for you to get the information and tools you need to take your life forward. Don’t be embarrassed about improving yourself because that’s all it is.
2. Self-help isn’t just for bookworms or intellects
One of the things I’m most proud of is the amount of feedback I get from people who have read Anxiety Rebalance who aren’t typical readers. Even though they don’t make a habit of reading they gave the book a go and it provided them with the answers they needed to move forward – and that’s what self-help should be about.
3. Self-help will help you grow
After working fourteen-hour days reading was the last thing on my mind. I’d rather sit down in front of the TV. The trouble with this was I was trapped in a cycle of doing the same thing over and over again, and I wasn’t learning – which meant I wasn’t growing. The people who aren’t growing via educating themselves are the ones being left behind - whether that’s through books, courses, workshops, documentaries, whatever - education is your key to a better life.
4. If you don’t help yourself, who will you help?
Why is it we don’t think twice about getting our cars serviced but when it comes to our minds it’s not a priority? Self-help is a way for you to service your mind. Exercise is good for your body, and reading is good for your mind. Look after yourself and make learning a priority for your wellbeing.
5. Self-help is a habit of the highly successful
One of the consistent things highly successful people do is make time to read, every day. It’s one of their key habits. That’s because they know the power behind knowledge. More importantly, they know when they put this knowledge into action it brings their goals to life.
6. Self-help can change your life
If you’re a self-help phobic like I used to be, my challenge for you is to try reading a book, go on a course, or find a coach – do something you wouldn’t have considered doing that will help you grow. Make the decision to better yourself, because that decision has to come from you.
I promise you – you won’t look back.
ABOUT CARL VERNON
Carl Vernon is a best-selling author & speaker, talking and writing about all things anxiety, stress, success & well-being.